So my most wonderful friend and first wife, Amanda, talked me into joining her for a spa day at the
Body Suite. You see, she was getting a weekend without her husband and daughter and she planned to take full advantage of it. She decided to do a full day of spa-wonderfulness. I was originally just going to join her for part of the day as she had invited other mommies to come along, but then I just bit the bullet and decided to do the whole day thing too. And the best part was we decided to take Friday off of work to do it. So not only were we totally pampered, but it was like playing hooky too.
The day started with me showing up at her house and we made breakfast together. Her husband and a friend were still at the house, so we all ate together. Then off we went to the Spa. We started out together in the dry sauna room. There’s nothing like getting to know a friend while you’re sweating, naked (except for a sarong), and in a little box of scorching heat. I was slightly (OK really) annoying at first because I couldn’t relax. I was running through my list of things I should be doing instead of sitting in here. It took me a good 20 minutes to start to relax. Amanda was very patient with me – although she might use that against me later.
After escaping the heat of hell, we had to go our separate ways. Amanda went off for her massage and body scrub. I went off for my first ever manicure and pedicure. I was so worried that I’d be laughing the whole time my feet were being touched, but it was actually very relaxing. The spa is right on the bike path over looking the ocean down by Cannery Row. So as I was being made beautiful, I got to watch all the interesting people go by. After our first sessions, we met up again for lunch. There is a cute little café located in the same building as the spa and we got to pick out what we wanted and they brought it over. The food was great and we both were well on our way to blissdom.
Next, I went for my massage and body scrub and Amanda got a facial. The massage was wonderful. I’ve had a sea salt back scrub with a massage before, but this time I was getting a full body sugar scrub - which by the way tastes pretty good when you accidentally get some in your mouth in the shower (more on this later). Anyway, this was a total body scrub and at one point I felt a little weird. So I’ve flipped over onto my back and am face up. I’m totally relaxed and may have even snored a little – who’s to know for sure. Then, all of a sudden, whoosh a hand towel is now covering my, uhm let’s say chest and the sheet is pulled down to my waist. Then boom my belly is starting to be scrubbed/massaged with sugar. Now as most of you know, I’m carrying a lot of my weight that I still haven’t lost (someday, someday) right in my belly and it’s a jolly, jelly, Santa type belly. Needless to say, I came back to reality quickly and abruptly, but was able to get back to my blissed out relaxed state once the initial shock of a stranger intimately touching my belly wore off. And as I was getting my hands massaged for the second time that day, I thought to myself – “I should massage Greg’s hands when I get home tonight, so he can experience just a little of the joy I’ve had today.” And I did indeed give Greg’s hands a massage when I got home later that night.
Now, I’ve got to go take a shower and get all the sugar off of me before I can go for my facial. It’s not as easy to get sugar off your body as you might think. I really had to rub it off to make sure it was all gone. I was doubled over in the shower rubbing my calves and the water was dripping down my head (while the blood rushed to it) when I shot upright – got a little dizzy and got some sugary water in my mouth. It’s not easy to steady yourself when you’re completely relaxed, but I didn’t fall over or injury myself.
I had a little time between the shower and my facial, so Amanda and I got to chat again while she was having her mani & pedi. She was sort of making fun of me for the huge grin I had on my face. I don’t think it was that big, but whatever. So we were trying to decide where to go for dinner when we were done. Then Victoria is ready for me and off I go to my facial - again another wonderful, blissful, relaxing experience. When it was all over, I felt like I was walking on air. I didn’t even think about the kids and didn’t feel guilty about that fact either.
Amanda’s officemate and friend, Renee, joined us for the end of the day. The two of them where waiting for me in the lobby. The first thing out of Renee’s mouth was, “I see what you mean about the grin.” So maybe Amanda was right. I was grinning from ear to ear, but I couldn’t feel it. I couldn’t feel anything but wonderfulness and bliss. And I got to this state without the aid of chocolate. : )
So we decided to go out for dinner, but Renee could only stay for a drink and had to get home. The dinner wasn’t part of the original plan, so I had to call Greg and make sure he was okay with the kids. We had a great meal and great conversation. I ended up getting home around 9:00 pm and again didn’t feel the least bit guilty about my day of pure self indulgence. I’m feeling completely renewed and reenergized. Now I get what they say about the fact that Mommies have to take care of themselves first, so that they have something to give to their families. It’s like the oxygen masks on the plane – place your mask on first before helping those around you.
I’ve decided that we have to get together once a month and have a Mommy Day – no kids, no husbands, no guilt – maybe not a full day at a spa, but at least dinner or a movie or a bike ride or whatever we discover recharges our mommy batteries. I think it’s made me a better mom and wife this week.